Key Talks with the Child Psychologist

Uppermost in our minds is how and when we break the latest news to our children.

We have had today's visit pencilled in for a few weeks as part of regular visits to ensure that we help our children  through this process in the best possible way. With things taking a nasty turn for the worse it now becomes more important than ever that we handle things well.

The consensus was that we should tell the children soon, so that they continue to share this journey with us, otherwise we are trying to hold back our feelings and will be sending out mixed messages.

We had been wondering whether we could eek it out until after Christmas but Boogle's sensitivity has meant that she is already on the trail even though she does not know what is going on.  She is feeling something and has been pretty close by in her articulation.

It was suggested that Christmas might actually be a better time if we were all of the same mind as a continuation of our approach all the way through.

Telling the children will not be easy and neither will it be easy dealing with the aftermath, but it has to be done.

Of course, we will not be painting it in black and white but they will be told that daddy will not be having his operation to get better and we will field the thoughts and questions as they come.