The last few months have not just been difficult for Kitten and me. The children have adapted well but have seen their dad deteriorate in a practical way. They have seen me unable to eat, losing weight, in pain, not able to participate, grumpy and less tolerant.
It is in childrens' nature that they are able to adapt well but it does have some effect on them. They do worry and that is difficult when it is impossible to give them cast iron assurances and also when they are still at an age where they find it difficult to express what they are feeling.
Where I have had to withdraw somewhat from daily activities there have still been plenty of cuddles and both Kitten and I make plenty of effort to talk to the children and give them practical reassurance.
All the way through the process we have tried to make their lives as normal as possible and affording them that stable structure without affecting their regular activites has been instrumental in preserving a sense of order amidst the chaos.
We have another appointment with the child psychologist in a couple of days time and everything seems to be on an even keel, for now.
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