Quality Time

One of the key foci for the coming weeks has to be that after the operation I will be "inactive" for quite some time.

There will be no barrelling through like chemotherapy where I am able to function, albeit at a "lower frequency".  The inevitability of this change brings different aspects of my life more sharply into view. 

Perhaps the most significant aspect is the time I spend with my children, both as and individual and as a whole family with Kitten.

Our children understand as much as is reasonable for their age and like all children they will adjust and be resilient.  Regardless of that I have a need to get the most that I can out of them of in the coming weeks and I hope that they have good times with me "before the shit hits the fan".

This weekend I took Huffty out on his own for the Chelsea stadium tour that was postponed from his birthday last weekend.  It is good to do things as a family but when you have only one of the children you do not have to manage the dynamic between them, which is disruptive.

Today, I took Boogle ice-skating and that time is in someways more valuable.  Kicking a ball around the garden is easy to do with your son and it is engaging and interactive, whereas there are arguably less activities in which I can engage my daughter.  Whilst, I used to think nothing of joining in with her bouncing on the trampoline (one of her favoured activities) I am less inclined to at the moment.

As a dad it is easy for the imagination to be less rigourously applied to your family life than it is to be applied to your work and leisure, now is not the time for that.